But you did not learn Christ in this way, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. (Eph. 4:20-24)I am not who I was. True? Daily, we are each learning, growing, and changing. Or, that is the hope at least. Yesterday, while recalling an exchange with a friend and listening to Carter teach our Sunday morning class, I had to smile at this thought.
I am not who I was, nor am I who I will one day be. I find great comfort in that.
While I was in Texas, I was able to meet with a friend of mine who is incredibly dear to my heart, and an important part of my spiritual walk. During my college years, she discipled me, taught me, challenged me, and laughed with me. She allowed me to simply be. With a discerning spirit, she seemed to know when to press for more, and when to allow me to process information. As I look back, I think she "got me" rather well. I received and email from her, and part of it read, "
Seeing you reminds me of the student who was so out going but deep too... she just had to process on her own, figure things out or get them under control and then she would bring it all to the table. Sound familiar?:-)"I had to laugh as I read that. Oh how true! In my response, I wrote, "
I have always been able to simply "be" when I'm with you. No need to be the funny girl or the one who's always smiling, just me. It's nice, and I thank you for that. Yea, I remember that student. In fact, I remember one who thought she had to be the always smiling always clever one, but all the while she was soaking everything in. Would she speak up? Maybe, maybe not, it would depend on who was around and who might stomp on her thoughts. Sometimes I wish I could go back and tell her, it's OK, you are OK, God has you here, in this place, in this moment for a purpose. Be confident in that!"
More often than not, I am the "funny one" in the group, or the one with just a tad more energy than others. This niche is fine, but it is only part of who I am. I married an introverted, musically gifted, highly intelligent man. He too can be quite funny and rather clever. He uses words that make
Webster sound juvenile, and has the gift of making connections in the Bible I have never heard or thought of before. He's gifted, in many ways.
When I was pregnant, a friend said, "Maybe she'll get Andy's intelligence and your athletic ability." Oh, thanks, so I'm the dummy in the bunch. She didn't mean it that way, but it was a funny comment. However, at the end of the day, I am the one listening to Andy process his day, what he is learning, and what he is being challenged with. And you know what? I get every single word. I may not understand the computer programming language he uses or why one code worked and another did not, but I understand
him. Truth be told, he is not the only intelligent one in the house.
I am finding myself becoming more OK with who I am, imperfections and all. The imperfections are now a source of joy and an opportunity for growth rather than sore spots I try to hide.
Right now, today, I have set up goals for myself, for my family. I am in constant battle deciding whether I can meet those goals and if I should give up on them. Do I move beyond people's perception of me or stay comfortably in this place? Do I go after what some say is impossible and silly or forge ahead with conviction and strength? Do I remain in character with that funny yet inwardly timid girl or do I walk confidently on in the gifts I have been given? Do I hide or do I allow others to know me? Either way, it is a choice.
In his book
The Traveler's Gift, Andy Andrews writes, "
Easing off does not make the going easier. Neither does it guide one to the desired destination. Most men ease off when the going is rough. Most slow down when the road appears treacherous. These are the times when you must feel the weight of your future on your shoulders - the throbbing, unstoppable strength of destiny coursing through your veins. Times of calamity and distress have always been producers of great men. The hardest steel is produced from the hottest fire; the brightest star shreds the darkest night" (pg. 159). He also writes, "
Until you have accomplished what you were put here to do, you will not - you cannot - be harmed" (p. 188).
And, I find myself smiling as I think, "It's OK for me to go ahead and run towards greatness." No, I'm not who I was, nor am I now who I will be, but, I sure am having fun on the journey.